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The subject of swinging this past week certainly brought a lot to the surface, didn’t it? One big issue that developed out of that post pertained to bisexuality. Homosexuality for all genders has been in the news lately, especially with the new law in California. Let’s all stand up and give a big “HOORAH” for that!
HOORAH!
Thank you! If it had happened in any other state, I think people across the country would have paid more attention, but you know how those Californians are! They are always the first to do something a bit daring and out of the ordinary. They are weird anyway!
The bisexual, however, has been misunderstood and much maligned by both sides of the argument. In the mind of the conservative, if someone has sexual interests in another of the same sex at any time, they are queer. At the same time, the homosexual thinks that a bisexual person is fence-sitting. OUCH!
I want to plead a case for the person who is not bound by any limits, either homosexual or heterosexual. Think about it! Isn’t there so much more to attraction than the genitalia of someone’s physical body and what they are capable of doing with it?
For many years, I have said that I am turned on by a personality and intelligence, not by any particular gender, race, age, size, blah blah. I’m not putting down those who stay at their own end of the continuum, whichever end that might be. I’m simply saying that it’s so much more fun to be open to either end (so to speak)!
Lifting our eyes from the genitalia to encompass the mind can broaden our global perspective in a beautiful way. I’m not sure where I saw it, but years ago there was a bumper sticker that said, “Intelligence is the ultimate aphrodisiac.” I heartily believe that! Too often we run across a beautiful body with a bimbo mind (both male and female).
The concept of personality comes into play here. As a psychologist, I know there are many different personality types, as well as many different ways to determine what your personality type may be. Find someone with a personality that intrigues you, that attracts you, that you enjoy being around, and can tolerate for longer than a quickie. Then play with their genitals and see what comes up (as it were)!
That’s enough on that topic for now. I’m sure we will come back to it. I’ll see you next Sunday with another juicy tidbit.
I blow you a kiss,
Fanny
1 comment:
It's definitely a complicated issue. Two different gay Buddhist groups I belong to (one of them ethnic Chinese Buddhist out of Singapore) are discussing this very topic right now. One of the five Buddhist precepts (they're not like Christian commandments, they're ideals striven for voluntarily) is "no sexual misconduct," which of course leaves lots of room for interpretation (which is as it should be in my opinion!). But, anyway, the question was raised in these groups and is being discussed and I find the discussions very interesting. The Asian Buddhists are MUCH less doctrinaire in their application of the sexual precept to bisexuality because the cultural expectation there is that one MUST marry (a member of the opposite sex); therefore, most find their personal, sexual satisfaction with members of the same sex outside of the marriage. The consensus in these groups, so far, seems to be that what's most important is not lying to any of your partners...in other words, openness and honesty, not the details of what goes where with whom, when. Even there, the Asians were sensitive to not destroying harmony if someone can't handle the truth. They trust VERY much (as do I) to the intention of the person, not some absolute scenario. Sorry to write such a long comment, but I love your blog Fanny and it's a topic that's dear to my heart! Hilton
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