Sunday, July 21, 2013

Where Do We Learn?


I recently read a question online asking about funny questions that had come up in elementary sex ed classes. Yes, I read many hysterically funny questions and answers on that site, but the main question as far as I’m concerned is “Where does a child get to learn some of these things?”

As parents, we are embarrassed to explain the facts of life to our children. As teachers, we aren’t any better. The children your child plays with certainly don’t know the answers, either. As the children get older, and they still haven’t heard some of the sexual terms, what happens then?

I teach human sexuality in a community college and I’ve had equally strange questions come up in class. One sweet young thing naively asked “What’s a blow job?” Fortunately, another student gave a very concise and accurate description that didn’t involve giggles from the rest of the class.

When I was in the hospital after delivering my first child (many decades ago!), the woman sharing my room said she had no idea there were “three holes down there” until she’d gotten pregnant. To my mind, there is no excuse for this kind of ignorance.

Come on, parents! We shelter our children from “naughty” words and acts, then wonder why they get pregnant in their early teens. We don’t give them accurate information, so they get inaccurate and scuzzy information from their friends, or online porn.

In class I emphasize the necessity of teaching the correct words for penis, breast, vagina, but I also encourage the students to let the child also learn slang terms. Allow a child to learn what happens between two people who love each other. There is no reason to shy away from letting our children know about life!

I blow you a kiss!

Fanny