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Can Erotica Be Literate?

There are many genres of writing and many subcategories within each genre.

Even a genre like “mystery” has several categories. I love all kinds of mystery stories, and some more than others. If written well and if a story has enough of a plot, I can enjoy a good “cozy” as much as a “thriller” or “suspense.” In other words, I am captured as much by the technique and uniqueness of the story as I am the genre.

Those of us who read and write in the erotica genre know that there are as many subcategories of that as of anything else. We can find everything from “sweet and romantic” to “kinky as hell.” Erotica is nothing new and we find it as far back as Ancient Greece and Rome. Sex will always sell because both women and men enjoy being titillated.

So here are a few of my questions about the genre of erotica:

• Why do so many people write erotica today with no story or plot?
•  Why do writers think they can get away with poor grammar and bad spelling?
•  Is it just the sex act they are trying to portray?
• Why is some of it even just bad sex?

In my own jaded way of thinking, I want the erotica I read to also give me more than simply “insert A into B and wiggle.” Is it just because I’m a female? Don’t men enjoy good literature as much as women?

Tie her up, give him a blowjob (yes, that’s all one word, not two), play at BDSM, do whatever you want to each other (at least anything that is Safe, Sane, and Consensual), but please, please give me a good story to go with it. Use spell check and grammar check, use a Thesaurus to find new and intriguing words, read good books on characterization and plotting, and be as creative as you can be. There may be nothing new in this world of sexuality, but it can still be fun, fascinating, and literate.

I will be publishing a few of my own stories soon, and I hope you will call me on it if you think I’ve written something that is nothing more than a technique for masturbation. I’ll let you know when my imagination is ready to be made public.

I blow you a kiss ~ ~

Fanny Jane Lucette

Olympic Tragedy

It is bad enough that Russia is still anti-gay, but the Olympic Committee is not going to support the gay athletes that are participating.

Read this article and explain to me why our star athletes may not voice their opinion on such an important topic as gay rights.

It feels like our world is becoming more hate-filled daily, rather than the loving, accepting world that so many people claim they want. Where can we start in making changes?

We can start with our small world - the circles of our partners, our families, our children - and move outward from there into our larger circles. I can't change the entire world, as much as I'd like to think I could. But I can start in my own small way here on this blog. 

I blow you a kiss!
Fanny

Where Do We Learn?

I recently read a question online asking about funny questions that had come up in elementary sex ed classes. Yes, I read many hysterically funny questions and answers on that site, but the main question as far as I’m concerned is “Where does a child get to learn some of these things?”

As parents, we are embarrassed to explain the facts of life to our children. As teachers, we aren’t any better. The children your child plays with certainly don’t know the answers, either. As the children get older, and they still haven’t heard some of the sexual terms, what happens then?

I teach human sexuality in a community college and I’ve had equally strange questions come up in class. One sweet young thing naively asked “What’s a blow job?” Fortunately, another student gave a very concise and accurate description that didn’t involve giggles from the rest of the class.

When I was in the hospital after delivering my first child (many decades ago!), the woman sharing my room said she had no idea there were “three holes down there” until she’d gotten pregnant. To my mind, there is no excuse for this kind of ignorance.

Come on, parents! We shelter our children from “naughty” words and acts, then wonder why they get pregnant in their early teens. We don’t give them accurate information, so they get inaccurate and scuzzy information from their friends, or online porn.

In class I emphasize the necessity of teaching the correct words for penis, breast, vagina, but I also encourage the students to let the child also learn slang terms. Allow a child to learn what happens between two people who love each other. There is no reason to shy away from letting our children know about life!

I blow you a kiss!

Fanny

Do You Read Erotica?

Until three years ago, I posted on this blog regularly, then decided I needed to take a break. As I promised on January 1 of this year, I plan to continue posting to this blog – at least until I need another break.

Every November, there is an event called “NaNoWriMo,” which means “National Novel Writing Month.” The idea is to write 50,000 words in 30 days. At the end of that time, you “copy and paste” your entire novel into their word counting machine. The website assures us that no one reads the novel and that it is destroyed after counting the words.

This past November, I managed to write 50,243 words on a novel. At this point, I need to do a fleshing out of what I wrote, hoping to make it into a novel worth reading.

What I wrote ended up being more erotic than I planned at the outset. I don’t mean that it is pornographic in the sense that it has graphic details of the sex act, but it does contain some of the kinkier sides of relationships.

Evidently there isn’t anything wrong with writing (or reading) kinky novels, as we can see from the recent roaring success of the Fifty Shades of Gray series by E. L. James. Yes, I read all three, and liked the fact that it contained what many consider “kinky” within a romantic relationship.

Nearly thirty years earlier, Anne Rice (writing as A.N. Roquelaure) had written the Beauty series based on the fairy tale of “The Sleeping Beauty.” This trilogy was definitely kinky, and many of us wrapped it in brown paper to read it. Anne wrote other books (under the name “Anne Rampling”) that were considered “edgy” or forbidden, and yes, I enjoyed those as well.

Some of us were not new to kink, but to see it in print by a well-known author was certainly different. There was a chat group online in the late 70s that explored kinky issues such as BdSm, D/s and more. I met someone in that room that is still a dear friend today.

Several of the women in the Human Sexuality class I teach were discussing Fifty Shades and one had brought her copy. They were embarrassed that I happened to see it. I told them I had read the series and they were surprised, although they have no idea this is a blog I write.

So why am I embarrassed about writing a novel that includes Swinging and Domestic Discipline, and anything else I could throw in? Why has this become so popular, and yet be thought so naughty? How many of my readers think it is time we came out of the closet, so to speak, about our interest in reading or writing literature that contains a bit (or a lot) of kink?

I welcome your comments!

Fanny

A New Beginning!

2013

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

It has been too long since I wrote on this blog!

Something is nagging at me to start again,

so here I am! 

May 2013 be a good year for us all!

I blow you a kiss ~ ~ ~

Fanny